7 Obstacles that Keep You From Your Dream
If you went into a kindergarten class and asked the students how many of them could sing, EVERY hand will go up.
Fast-forward 13 years later and ask the same class of seniors the same question. After a few moments of awkward stares, only a few hands would go up, if any.
What changed?
The kindergartner believed they could sing because no one told them otherwise.
What is keeping you from living your dream?
The fact is that we've been conditioned to believe the lies that people have told us about living our dreams. People try to tell us who to be, what to do, where to go, how to walk, and how to talk.
These suggestions can be helpful to a certain point. Our leaders and teachers want the best for us, but when it comes to living your life, ultimately, you have to be yourself. This is what success is all about.
After all, if you're trying to be like everyone else, who will be you?
Stop conforming and start performing!--Daniel Ally
Here are 7 Obstacles that Keeps You From Living Your Dream:
1. Seeking Security: Most people are two paychecks away from being broke, yet they still seek security in their jobs. Those who seek to be comforted financially by working a job they don't like will not have a good chance of living their dreams. In short, they'll be exchanging their lives for constant bread.
It's a bad deal. Seeking security is like asking for sunny days daily for the next 40 years. Unless you're in California, it's just not going to happen. The marketplace is unpredictable and you never know when you're going to lose your 'secure' job, so you might as well take a risk and live your dream!
2. Living in Routines: It has always marveled me that people go to work and leave every day at the same time for 40 years or so. This lack of change keeps you living a mundane life and limits your experiences in life. Abraham Lincoln once said, "It not the years in the life that matter, but the life in the years."
When you live a routine life, you become so predictable and average. It becomes a grind and you go through many mood swings without knowing why. Sometimes, a routine can limit your creativity and severely stymie your growth. You might want to consider switching it up. Change is always good.
3. Listening to Naysayers: Like the kindergartners, you cannot believe what negative people say. Too many people listen to naysayers and stop believing in themselves too early. Someone's opinion of you doesn't have to become your reality, no matter how credible the person may seem.
Strangely enough, many of my teachers in school told me that I couldn't write. I even failed a few English classes in high school and college. In fact, I graduated 2nd to last in high school. The last guy was in jail! Still, I persevered and wrote 3 books and I am a top contributor to Entrepreneur Magazine. Forget naysayers.
4. Lack of Motivation: If you ask most people how they are doing, they'll say, "Not bad, couldn't complain, or could be worse." What a negative way of thinking! These people lack the motivation they need because they have no goals!! These people think opportunities will come to them without action.
To stay motivated in your journey, you need to write your goals down every day. You have to follow through everything you want to do and prioritize your goals. Most people give up because they don't see results fast enough or end up getting distracted. You've got to go out there and make things happen!
5. Not Investing in Yourself: The other day, I talked to a financially-challenged man who purchased tickets to his favorite football game. His tickets were $1,000. I'm not against football, but I could just see this man investing his money in his education rather than his entertainment.
However, not everyone sees it this way. Too many people are consumed in their own indulgences and lust for experiences which keeps them away from reality. If you got more serious about investing yourself by attending a seminar, buying a book, or hiring a coach, you'll be better off when it comes to living your dreams.
6. Pride and Ego: This is a big dream-buster. Most people let their false value systems hold them back from living their dreams. For instance, I've met many people who tell me all the time that they don't want to be millionaires. Since, they've allowed this belief system to infiltrate their minds, they don't get rich.
People with a lot of pride and ego won't go after opportunities because they think they are 'good enough.' When opportunities pass them by, they'll say to themselves and their friends, "That wasn't for me after all." These people create excuses for themselves that often hold them back for a lifetime.
7. The Story You Create: We all have a story that we play in our heads. Some people call this self-talk. Either way, our story leads us to where we want to go. If you have the "poor little ol' me" attitude, that's exactly what you'll get in life. Unfortunately, too many people downplay themselves and their abilities.
One of my audience members came up to me and told me why he couldn't get started with his business. He told me, "I'm too young. Plus, I don't have a degree." People all over the world play these kind of stories--and they believe them. If you create a new story to your life, I'll be looking forward to reading it.
Summary:
Do what you want to do, be who you want to be, and live how you want to live. Believe in yourself and everyone else will believe in you. Live fearlessly and go after your dream.
Daniel Ally
www.danielally.com
